We often claim we don’t care about others’ opinions, but deep down, most of us do. 

I was one of those people. Every compliment, every critique, and every bit of attention felt like a measure of my worth.

Whether we realize it or not, external judgments decide how we feel about ourselves. Praise, support, and admiration serve as affirmations that boost our self-confidence. On the other hand, criticism, neglect, and disdain act as destructive comments that chip away at our sense of dignity. 

Growing up, I craved the validation of others’. Getting told small compliments like “you look nice” or “you’re funny” would make my day. However, when I would hear the negative comments people would make, I would start to question my self-value. 

Constantly seeking validation from others’ is exhausting. You’re never satisfied because there is always someone who won’t approve. I started caring more about self appreciation. Why do I need others’ to assure me that I’m good enough when I should already know that?

Since I’ve started working on being myself and loving who I am, I have become so much happier and more easy going. I no longer rely on others to cheer me on; I can acknowledge my own achievements and find the validation I once searched for within myself.

I’m not suggesting that others’ opinions are unimportant to me; they are. However, I no longer allow them to define who I am.